I was perusing through the December issue of Glamour magazine and I came across an article called; Guys' Weird New Habits: Why? Why? So, of course I had to read it because honestly, who wouldn't be interested in an article titled like that!
The first section is: Why are guys getting waxed there? Apparently we can blame the mainstream of metrosexuality and the mainstream of porn. One guy was quoted as saying "it's soft and smooth and clean". Plus from what I've heard elsewhere, it makes their junk look bigger.
Next is: Why are young guys undergoing vasectomies? Bottom line, they're selfish.
Wow, really?! Men, selfish?! Tell me something I don't know.
Next section: Why are guys so amused by "braining"? I had never even heard of this until I read the description and then wishing I'd skipped that part. "Braining" is, when a guy falls asleep after drink, his buddy-the "brainer"- takes out just his testicles and places them next to the snoozer's face. Then he points a camera downward, snaps a photo and posts it on Facebook or Myspace.
I so don't understand this.
Next is: Why are guys obsessed with making sex tapes? Short version.... to show off and prove their masculinity.
Next: Why are guys saying no to casual sex? This one intrigued me. One reason, is because more women are making the fist move, which means-fair's fair-that it's the women's turn to hear the occasional no. Second reason, they are realizing it's OK to say hold off.
And lastly, the one I've been waiting to talk about is: Why are guys still taking such risks just to get laid. Kinda contradicts the above, but whatever.
Basically, it's about cheating and why would men take a big risk when the threat of getting caught is so big. They mentioned a website that I had heard about before but never looked at called
womansavers.com.
Out of curiosity, I decided to visit it one day to see if any of my ex's were one there. I typed in a few names and nothing was coming up on any of them. I typed in one final name. The name of the prick who broke my heart last year. And what do you know? His name popped up!
Of course I had to look! They had a picture of him for all to see and 4 posts from woman who he had "relationships" with after me. He cheated on every. single. one of them. He told them all the same lies he told me, all the same wishes and hopes for "their future". These were all dated about 6 months ago, which was 6 months after we broke up. Boy, did he get over me fast!
Anyway, so I'm reading these posts and thinking how lucky I was. As far as I know, he never cheated on me, at least not in the beginning. Toward the end, I think he did, but not at the start of our relationship. At that time he was living with my best friend's husband so he would've known if he was messing around and told me.
OMG! I almost forgot the most important part! In the past 6-7 months since he's been on there, his profile has been viewed 131 times!!! Man, he gets around a lot! I'll be curious if he ever gets a date in that town again after all the women that have looked at his profile on that site!
But it also really got me thinking. He not only fooled me with his lies, but he fooled my friend's that set me up with him. They never would have set us up if they thought he would ever do what he did to me. He really was one hell of a smooth talker.
So, to all the single women that read my blog and are wondering about the new man in their life. And I guess even the married ones that are curious about past loves, check out that website, it's an eye opener.
In closing, reading all the things that my ex did to past girlfriend's and reliving all the things he did to me, made me realize that even though my heart was broken into a million tiny pieces and I never thought I would recover, I did. And it made me realize that it is capable of love again and I KNOW I will find it.
Hopefully sooner rather than later...
